anyway, i was just saying...... recently have quite some changes - both at work & from the ppl around me... and most of the comments i've heard are quite.... "innovative" to me (wah, haven't been able to use that word since i left ASAT!) hahah!!
- MARRIED guyS keep going out, screwing around and hitting on girls; while there's REALLY girls who'll screw back - even though she knows that he is MARRIED and UNAVAILABLE and not getting anywhere!
- Engaged Girl, telling me not knowing if he is really THE ONE.... hmmmm (okay, i think it's kinda like a pre-marriage symdrome or sth...) but what i heard isn't that "healthy"...
- Single but unavailable guys, VERY HAPPY with the current relationshp & status w/ his gf - actually NEVER THOUGHT of getting marry or anything like that in the future - even though they've been together for... almost 7 yrs?! i mean, I don't see any "problem" between them at all - just the word "wedding" ain't on their "road map" which is just kinda...weird to me?!
- Single (& available?) guy, just told me he doesn't "call chicken", instead just "find a woman" - nope, not gf/wife, nope, nor a 1ns, as he "knows the lady" (he "emphasized" that!) - doesn't matter - boil down to the question - what the hell is that exactly then?! like a "sex partner"? WHAT!??!!??!!??!?!
- Single guy & single girl, yes, BOTH SINGLE, doing all the things like a couple does, like meeting every other day, talk about their future house - but no, they're not dating. according to my Psychologist friend, they're "spending" the time together b/c both of them "enjoy" the feeling, but yet don't want any commitments as a bf/gf - like "enjoy" the activities, but not "enjoy" w/ the company @..@;
- There's INDEED a difference for the so-called "Chemistry" in a relationship... it doesn't matter how long you know each other, it's all that catalyst that matters...
- when you get hurt, it can really be serious - to the degree that your heart ACTUALLY hurt - PHYSICALLY - and it's not only from a bf/gf relationship... shit...
- MANY ppl indeed will only "walk 1 step" for EACH KICK you kicked HARD IN THEIR BUTT!!!! V_V''
used to enjoy being single a lot - but then, wanna have someone such that i can lean on when the bad things hit (at least on the phone - when someone is AVAILABLE!?) - but w/ all the above confusions??! probably still better being by myself....
it just get so complicated & confusing of what relationship is all about these days... maybe i'm just too NAIVE and shouldn't believe in "pure" love anymore? and to cut it short - all guys AND GALS are just NOT CLEAN these days anymore!!
or maybe it's just ME who's changed over the years?!?!?!?!
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I never know anyone who are even remotely similar to those you descirbed. Who do you hang out with these days?
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不過，希望唔會影響你對"Pure Love"的信心啊！~~
hey you 2!! so special to get comments from u 2 - decades friends (okay, i'll skip how many "decades" we've know each other) wahahahahahahahaha....
anyway - dan, the ppl i hang out - it's like "normal" ppl to me - i mean, it's just like one of those friends you hang out! i mean, don't know about all these "confusion" until we talk deeper into it.... just.... WEIRD... glad that casey back me up (not that i'm blowing water!) @_@'''
Anyway... it's not that i don't have the faith for "love" - just that it's soooooooooooooooo much TROUBLE to get the RIGHT person - WITH the chemistry AND AVAILABLE!!!!!!! V_V''
oh well, guess u 2 had sorted out that problem kekekekekeke
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gerry: what can i said?! i THOUGHT i know NORMAL ppl too - until i KNOW about the so-called "other side" @_@'' anyway, now probably also explain why i don't get GOOD fwd emails these days *hahahhaa* i think the only "expression" i can give u is - like your cat w/ that funny fruit hat *LOL*
Wow, I read something similar in a HK magazine early this year and I thought it was a story the reporter "made up" to fool us. But what you said in your posting I guess it's true then. One question...the people u described in your post...how old were they? Between mid 20s and mid 30s?
BTW, don't get discouraged. The worst thing a single person can do is to stay home and don't socialize.
william - the ppl have mentioned are actual FRIENDS - in real life! Well, age range spam from 25 - 45+ (?); geographic range from HK, Asia, EU, US...
so i guess it's quite a good "sample size"?! *LOL* anyway, why everyone think that i'm discouraged? maybe i'm - well, i just think it as one of those "aware-of-getting-old" symdrome i've hahahahaha
friends ... i guess it's not really surprise ... i mean ... it depends on how deep your friend(s) wants to reveal their 'view' about relationship... also .. since i attended a few years (like 5 years in total) of girl-only school ... i've learned abt sometimes ... u just take the "don't ask, don't tell" policy ... i was surprised to find out that there's a 'couple' from high school are still going out ... ... but i don't think they officially announce that they are 'couple' ... but the 2 gals ... are just behave like couple ... u know... but ... are jasper's friends only cover asian throughout the globe? or including non-asian as well?
Well, Jasper, I can understand the unmarried pairs who have been together for more than 5+ years and still have no plan to tie the knots. Usually it's a one-side thing: either the guy or the lady who didn't want to commit to a married life just yet. I would be surprise if both of them didn't want to commit to a married life...very unusual if they have been together for more than 5+ years and are financially capable. Of course, other factors such as career advancement could play a role here but they would at least talk about getting married on-and-off or in a process of planning for it.
As for the married ones...well, is it the 7-year itch that prompted them to "play with fire"?? LOL...
interesting especially i've been thinking a lot about relationship lately. i think it makes sense to go your "find a woman" friend's path.
similar to you, i quite enjoy single life but would like to have mental and physcial satisfaction from a partner. but it's really hard to maintain a good committed relationship and sometimes i really wonder if it's worth it to be gf/bf.
i won't define that ppl are not "clean" these days. different people have different attitudes towards relationship, as long as they're not manipulating others it's the couple's choice.
we should totally chat about this on saturday!!!
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