In Memory of Whitney...

I still remember Her Bodyguard CD was probably the 1st CD i ever got in US. That was the time i "listen" to English songs (and know how to sing!) haha.. Her voice is probably the only one can "touch" my heart, not marie carey, nor celine dior, Whitney is probablyh the only one...

those were the good old days...

What a lost, she was only 48...

In Memory of Whitney... I'll always love you~

FW: 知識傲慢

A note to myself - don't be a "知識傲慢"!!

路中拾遺：知識傲慢

資訊爆炸，周圍愈來愈多「知識傲慢」的一群。

這詞彙是《黑天鵝效應》作者塔雷伯所創的，指的是那些教育程度過高、學術人士、新聞從業員、報紙讀者、死板的「科學家」和假經驗主義者。
他們擅長把自己看不見、沒觀察到的東西加以簡化，卻不知道自己所做的簡化與過濾根本存在謬誤，卻當成是至理，是常識，在虛擬世界或者現實裏四處宣揚，同時鄙夷那些不認同、沒聽過這些常識的人。

塔雷伯說，我們的大腦是個絕佳的自欺工具，它先天的設計不是用來處理複雜、非線性的不確定事物，在這個資訊爆炸的時代，更多的資訊其實意味着更多的錯覺。我們讀過一些未經證實的網絡文章就以為自己讀過一本書，卻不知道書跟網絡文章其實還是有着根本性的差別；我們讀報只瀏覽標題，讀網站文章也一樣，太長的文章就只跳段速讀，取個印象，胡亂簡化，把人家討論區來源與真偽不明的資訊東取一截，西剪一塊，然後當成自己的意見四處宣揚，跟意見不同的人論戰，有時候卻連自己究竟在捍衞甚麼都漸漸模糊，對自己守護的理論也沒有深入理解……

愈是擁有「知識傲慢症候」的人，愈是抗拒承認自己有這樣的傾向，甚至還會惡狠狠地跟你開罵，然而啊，這總是「無私顯見私」、「此地無銀」的最有力證明。

王貽興

FW: Timing

能量：timing定發情期
作者 夢妮妲 Dream & Senses – 2012年1月12日星期四下午12:04

聽電台節目《口水多過浪花》，主持人Do Do姐鄭裕玲說熊貓的發情期一年內只得一天，若果二隻熊貓遇上，縱使有一隻已經整「妝」待發，但另一隻「timing唔夾」，又要等一年，即使工作人員已扭盡六壬，連成人電影都日日播放，企圖製作浪漫刺激觀能，一樣肥佬，顯然兩隻熊貓不受這一套，仍是一副愛理不理的模樣，只嘆奈何。

人又何嘗不是？你說喜歡她，千方百計去取悅她，要她歡喜，她卻當你透明。好了，轉向先做朋友嗎，又當正你是正牌觀音兵，甜頭少少做事多多；朋友嗎，不是兩肋插刀的嗎？！你原本想打開對方心靡，對方去到某個位置便停下來，裝甲沒卸下，如何貼身了解？更別說花了半年仍在朋友位置兜兜轉轉了。最後下場是一句：「對唔住，我哋timing唔夾。如果以前我會鍾意你呢類型嘅男仔，依家你似我細佬多啲，真係冇feel，唔好意思呀！」不到三個月，你會見到女與一位男士手拖手去日本旅行，在機鐵車廂內依偎的模樣，你以為她與舊情人復合，原來那只不過是一位外貌或感覺跟她前度很像的男子吧。男女換轉都一樣。

一個人若果對前度依舊眷戀或想償還，心神仍處於同一個舊有狀態中，會傾向找回一位跟上一個或一直以來拍拖像倒模般相似的人。說那是timing問題，倒不如說那是上一回的功課未做完、學習未有成的豆，種出來的果。你有沒有發現，有一些事情，你千方百計，左避右避，男女友換了，工都轉了，家都搬了，移民都做了，還是最終經歷千迴百轉，回轉到自己身上，像似交上一生的惡運。例如同樣再做第三者、再遇上衰男人／女人，再遇上惡死自私到極點的《Devil Wears Prada》老闆，所有歸零，那種感覺既是熟悉，又是無奈，但內心除了一句「oh shit!」，痛惜前功盡癈外，還可以怎樣？仍是死死地氣面對算了。當然亦有些人選擇未ready，繼續搬，繼續避。

所以話，要面對的，還是要面對。你內心沒有改變的，你纏上的人與事，可以緊隨着你，天荒地老，移民咁移，信不信由你。

Simply Fact - 其實理由往往是很簡單

問題只是我們能否在那刻接受現實／說得出口。。。

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路中拾遺：理由只有一個

有沒有試過叫人把真實答案隱藏在ABCD幾個選擇裏面？通常，不懂撒謊的人，都會把真實答案放在最前或者最後，而不會是中間。

而且，即席掰假答案的時候那些猶豫支吾也會輕易把真正答案出賣。只有慣於撒謊的，才會流利暢順地把真假答案混於其中，而不被覺察。

被迫撒謊的時候，我們有時會用其他傷害性較少的煙霧彈去掩蓋真正具傷害性的真正答案，以藉口遮住理由，蒙混過去，然而要是當你問一個人他為甚麼需要這份工作，他回答你的理由超過一個的時候，這個人其實並不是最着緊、最需要這份工作的一個，而他，更不可能是最誠實的一個。

這其實不難理解。讓我們把情景改成分手，或者表白吧：當你問對方為甚麼要分開，而對方告訴你的理由不止一個的時候，那些其實都不是真正的死因，因為最具傷害性也最真實的說不出口，才用其他煙霧彈蒙混過關而已，誰都知道，當他簡單直接的跟你說「我已經不愛你了」，那才是最終極也最誠實的分手理由。

所以，當你問對方為甚麼愛你，如果對方想了很久，或者想也不想，就給你一個答案，這必定是最誠實也最重要的答案，這個人大抵也值得相信託付。

為甚麼喜歡這個女孩？男人也許會說她善良、心地好、可愛、個性吸引之類，然而真正理由也許不過是：她的身材很好，而已。

王貽興

超市趣怪經歷 2011

So last night I’ve 趣怪經歷 and ran into a crazy woman... so i was shopping in Wellcome, and this woman with 2 kids were at the freezer section. (u know those big freezer w/ door size glass door, if you open it it'll have mist all over and can't see a thing)

The mom actually stood there, open the door, (get it all mist) and let one of her kids DRAW on the GLASS!!!!!!!

I stood there (coz can't go through) for like 20 sec until her kid FINISHED his work... can you believe that? (and this is NOT the crazy part yet)

so when they finally closed the door (such that I can walk by) then I said, "小朋友係要教架", the mom, instead of feeling shame, questioned me saying "你又知道我無教? 你見唔到就等於無教架啦？"

"我真係見唔到囉" (我心諗阿師奶，你有教就唔會開埋門俾佢畫畫啦吓嘩。。。好心啦，塊玻璃都唔會乾淨得去邊）

I didn't even stopped by and keep pushing my cart, and that lady is asking her son "XX，話俾呢個 Auntie 聽我有無教你”, and she turned and said to me "係教都唔係係度教，亦唔係你教。。。

（我諗，都係），所以我話 "塊玻璃唔乾淨都唔應該俾小朋友掂啦" (其實，我介意佢整污糟塊玻璃多D)

"你就梗係無仔俾你教。。。"

i was already at the end of the isle, actually, I don't care what the kid's answer... and i don't really care what she's insulting me... how can a kid be a responsible person if his mom is acting like that?

and what is even MORE crazy, when I was lining up at the cashier, that lady got her mobile out and took a pict of me （荒死人唔知佢電話可以影相，亦好似要教訓我話我聽佢有我張相咁，呀師奶，你唔係以為我會怕你攞住我張相上網唱通街嘛？？

I wasn't bothered until she is very 得戚 and said she got my pict, so I said, "你知唔知我可以告你侵犯我私隱?" (其實應該係毀謗）so I took a pict of her (and the kids) and said, "我想話俾你知唔係得你個電話有相機可以影相"

and then she was swearing on the way out (i don't even know what she's saying)... ppl these days... 惡人先告狀！ also 這樣嘅身教，唔奇得D小朋友嘅價值觀有問題啦！

我亦想講，網上人肉搜查唔難，唔好話我 quite fully attached on the cyberspace, 佢亦可以好容易做到，之不過我唔會咁做。我只確得 right at the beginning the act she took her phone out to take a pict of me is VERY WRONG - 點解佢覺得咁做係啱／可以解決問題／保護到佢自己？？（而 the rational behind me taking her pict is really to "protect/defend" myself)... I THINK it's different...

P.S. those kids aren't young, at least primary 3 or 4 ga la! Aiii…..

Happy Thanksgiving 2011

My dear families (and you who take me as of your own sis/bro) :)

I am very grateful of having you in my life and thanks for taking care of me all these years!! Thx to fb / g+ / MSN or just email / PHONE to bring those who are thousands miles away so close to me as if they're in HK, and thanks for those who are in HK always treat me as a dear sis / bro XDDDDD

Wishing you, your family and your loved one a joyful and peacful Thanksgiving. Miss you!

Love,
Em

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on the side i did a little review for myself and the PCHK when replying to Kirk's email, afterall, it's a different set of experience PCHK has given me...

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... It has been a fruitful year, both for myself as well as the Club! As a Life time alum member (after graduated a decade ago!), and on behalf of the Purdue HK Club, we would like to say thanks, we are thankful for you and your team's hardwork to make the alum network stronger over the yrs! Thank you for making us Proud to be a Boilermaker, even we may have left West Lafayette for years.

Happy Thanksgiving!! Hope to see you soon, in HK or West Lafayette!!!

Wine Fest 2011 @ Kowloon West

3rd year this year, also my 3rd time. the backbone is the same but many changes. nevertheless, had a blast. Grateful, for all who joined~

Dine and Wine Fest 2011 :)

New Layout...

Just want a change, want a "happier / autumn" look...

Nightingale - Yanni

Very peaceful to listen before bed... thx for sharing transformer :D

Old folks gathering @ Peking Restaurant

難得 Jer 神叫食飯，同劉師傅一行三人到太古北京樓晚餐一聚- 唔經唔覺原來同 Jer san 都有年幾兩年無見！ Lots to catch up - while we dine like we're going to a traditional Chinese meal (i.e. 去飲！）LOL 事原我哋大家都好懶唔想諗食乜，所以就叫咗個 Enjoy card promote 嘅 4 人餐 - OMG，真係好似去飲，食極都有，哈哈哈～～～～


宮保蝦球脆玉瓜, and 冷盤：海蜇+水晶淆肉 at the back


皮脆多肉北京填鴨 XDD really tasty!!! :D


some type of 竹笙 soup :P


We were too busy and didn't take much picts - so this one got all 3: 火腿扒津白 at the very far end, 賽螃蟹 and 小籠包

the most important thing is to catch up.. after all, they're buddies since ASAT times... I'm sure each of us have changed during the years, but we still have a silly and great time together~ :D