FW: 我恒我訴：出嚟傾

為何害怕了見面呢？還是，我倆的感情已經淡薄了??

:~((

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我恒我訴：出嚟傾

發現近年的社交活動愈來愈少。不是因為筆者深居簡出，亦不是因通貨膨脹而要減少消費。朋友沒有減少，工作仍是那樣繁重，但大家面對面的約會確實減少了。

從前，無論是談公事，還是訴心聲，一個電話到，下句就是：「出嚟傾啦！」但來到這個年代，大家都彷彿害怕了與人接觸，要討論甚麼，「在電郵上談吧！」要開會的話，「視像或Conference Call啦！」即使要相約一個人，也是靠短訊，連電話也懶得撥一通；無論他的「真身」在何方，原來也是在我們可接觸到的距離——手機和鍵盤內。

所以，當再聽到有人要出國升學或移民的時候，大家只會淡然地說：「不要緊啦，我們可以Skype同FaceTime嘛！ 記得和我WhatsApp呀！」所謂的依依不捨，都只不過是輕輕帶過，絕對不會去到「生離死別」、「揮淚作別」的地步。這也難怪，既然近在咫尺也只是談電話和傳短訊，他在九龍還是倫敦，又有何分別呢？

為何我們都害怕了見面呢？是不是因為太依賴科技，令我們的交際能力不斷下降？還是，人和人的感情愈來愈淡薄？如果有一天，所有人都只是坐在房中的電腦前交際，那又將會是一個怎麼樣的世界？我們還需要咖啡店嗎？筆者是傳統人，始終覺得「見面」是「親眼見一面」，要觸摸得到、感覺得到，能呼吸得到她的香氣。我們可以親手拭去情人的眼淚；亦可以輕輕一拍兄弟的肩膀，予他最給力的支持，這才是人和人相處的真正方式。親愛的朋友，出嚟傾？隨時奉陪！

導演及電台主持

劉偉恒

No one can guarantee...

"Marriage is not about unchanging love; it is more about letting love change us. It is not about living idyllically in our similarities, but about living peacefully and pleasurably in our differences." - Being Wrong

Quote posted by wiseman...

Exactly the pt! "Unchanging" is NOT what i was referring to, yes, maybe it's true that no one can guarantee as we are not God, all i am trying to say is being in a relationship is being with someone whom you can 'grow' with, or just as the quote put it "letting love change us"...

I don't know why I'm insisting it's all about commitment, 而得到對方的愛便是 commitment 背後最大嘅原動力。。。

活到這年紀，很多東西應該要學會看得開，let go when it is time, 只是這一點點暫未能放下, because, this is just what i believe in, and still make up part of who I am today...

4D dream...

this is like the 1st time i really feel that i can SMELL in my dream... although the smell from the deadbody may indicate good things happen in work (which i'm not really looking fwd.. but anyway, the dream still bothering me... aii...

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it was like watching a scary movie (but i'm actually the one in the movie)... that somehow i know there's going to be a dead lady.... i went to the building, quite old type w/ no elevator (but newly ivory color paint), then i met up that girl's boy friend at the entrance, we rush up the stairs (and i kept thinking why 8th / 9th floor so many stairs to go tired die)...

so finally we reached the top floor, the stairs are very wide (probably double size of the old building i stayed in)... so anyway, the guy reached the apartment first, he rang the door bell (and i was half floor waiting b/c i know it's going to be scary...

the door opened, but w/ no one!? the guy went in, and at the same time the neighbor downstairs come out, a young lady in blue clothes (swim suit / shorts or sth), saying "hai lor, don't know why called her for a few catch up but she didn't show up / respond to me"... so i went up w/ that neighbor to the apartment - and before we reached the door (it's opened b/c the guy went in already) we smell very terrible smell and my sense tell me it must be from deadbody (in which i've never and don't wanna know in real life), then i saw the guy and another big guy in the apartment moving the deadbody out (one take the foot and one take the shoulder or sth...

luckily phone rang and help me escaped from such a scary dream.. i can't imagine what would happen next...

FW: 找誰跟你一起過生活

I never really like Wong as i think he's too high profile... on the other hand, i just think that if you're CRAZILY in love w/ someone, you'll always "覺頭上陽光燦爛；失去了他，你得到世間一切仍然悶悶不樂"??

at least for me... miss him day and nite... ;-P

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路中拾遺：找誰跟你一起過生活

當我們到了某年紀，開始親身戳破愛情的糖衣肥皂泡，給刺穿的泡沫濺傷了眼睛，就開始隻眼開隻眼閉的找伴侶。

這時候，總是有人這樣抱怨：其實我的要求已經很簡單，我不要求有白馬王子，不希望天天浪漫窩心，但求有個志同道合、步伐一致的人跟我一起生活，只要對方不討厭便行了，不相愛有不相愛的好處，然而為甚麼這個一起生活的人，竟然不比靈魂伴侶易找多少？

其實啊，我一直相信，不管你找的是甚麼，找不找到，根本就跟要求高低無關。有些人要求極高極刁鑽都給她剛巧遇上，很多人要求甚低，要的不過是四肢健全智商正常的異性乙名，多年來遇上的仍然甩皮甩骨，因此，一切都是命，跟要求高低不一定就有關係。

也許，我們即使降低要求這麼多年，仍然沒遇上一個能夠一起生活的人，是否該停下來反省一下？我們是不是方向錯了，其實，我們不該在尋找一個能夠一起生活的人，而是，該找一個沒有了他就無法生活的人？

有了他，你但覺頭上陽光燦爛；失去了他，你得到世間一切仍然悶悶不樂……我們真正需要的，其實是這種人吧？偏偏，我們又因為害怕這種人的強大摧毀力量，知道跟他一起我們的生活總是很容易變得一團糟，所以總是潔身自愛，小心遠離，然而也許，能讓我們不枉此生，沒有白活一場的，正是這個獨一無二的人啊。

王貽興

VIIV

Life goes on for the last 22 years, I still remember our Chinese / 社會科老師陳主任 tried her best to explain to us back then P6 students what'd happened...

I hope this day will never come again, Life goes on...

並沒有忘記，也不敢忘記。。。

咁辛苦，算吧啦。。。

:~(

Movie Review on 單身男女

Er... TOTALLY disappointed, even w/ 2 of the "cutest living guys" in HK... sigh, totally wasted... see one of my reviews on why i don't like this movie (when replying to Aquarius about why this movie is a guys' fantasy...

單身男女

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Actually i'm very disappointed 杜琪峯 made such a 'low level love story"... it reflect the writer thinks girls in general want from guys are: 靚仔、有錢、專一... so that's why i think most of the guys would like movie and it's a "fantasy" for them and what they've been working toward to these days...so they may easily have 共鳴 and think that having 高圓圓 to choose between 有錢靚仔嘅 ibanker 古天樂 (但花心) vs. 心地好專一靚仔嘅吳彥祖 (但無古天樂咁有錢) 就好似天下上一件好難嘅事咁。。。

其實一開場就已經可以揀吳彥祖(although i know i'm also bias!) hahahaha... but no need to use TWO hrs for a story that can be done in 20 min. but again.. maybe you GUYS like FANTASY gwa. hahahahahahha most of my girl friends doesn't like the movie either (even though we all like Daniel) hahaahaha..

I guess it's true that rich guys can get girls easier, give the guys more "options", and plenty of girls are for that. HAHA, MAYBE i'm the one living in fantasy and expect 杜琪峯's love story will have depth like 龍鳳鬥 with Sammi & Andy Lau... Anyway... blah blah blah, i should keep this on my blog instead.

WAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKAKKAK

Hmm... A Reminder.... 秘密心事 (梁佩瑚)

Agree and reminder to myself...

FW: 瑚說百道：秘密心事

記得讀中學的時候，很多時都會跟一些同學（有男有女）談秘密心事，而這些秘密事，當然是「你猜某某喜不喜歡我」。

不知道為甚麼，很多時我都會成為傾訴的對象，也許是跟我名字有個「佩」字有關吧！朋友時常把我看成是「佩夫人信箱」，向我取經。不知他們又可有發覺，其實「佩夫人」只是止咳用的藥，根本跟愛情是沒有關係的。然而，我這個「佩夫人」也做得蠻開心的，聽着別人那麼多秘密，儲着儲着便成了今天還沒用盡的小說情節和橋段，想起來也真的要多謝曾向我訴心事的朋友。

還以為只有年輕的我們才會有閒情和心情跟朋友談秘密心事，沒想過今時今日，到了這個歲數，還有朋友把秘密心事放到枱上，很不秘密地跟同枱吃飯的朋友請教「她喜不喜歡我」這個問題。

很明白當喜歡上一個人的時候，心情是會忐忑得毫無主見，甚至會徬徨得不知所措，所以請教朋友的意見，絕對是正常的。只是，做了那麼多年人，在感情世界裏亦經歷過那麼多了，為甚麼會連對方對自己有沒有感覺也分不出？也許，有些人對這方面的感覺會有點遲鈍，但要是對方是有意思的，再遲鈍的人也應該會感覺到吧！畢竟人是靠觀感生活的，要是從對方身上感覺不到甚麼的話，我想這件「秘密心事」，應該開不了甚麼花了。

糊塗人
梁佩瑚

FW: 浪漫，又是甚麼？

對於我來說，也許是比較"單純"（自己也忍唔住笑！哈！）我未必知道乜嘢係浪漫。。。不過窩心就都會有嘅。。。 好似

- "無呀，打嚟睇吓你點解咁慘咁夜都未返屋企。。。" （即刻乜慘都 sweet 晒）;P
- "聽見你病咪打你睇吓你點囉。。。食咗藥味呀"（唔病都即刻變得十分非常病得好嚴重）XDDDDDD
- 應承我下次一定會唱我點嘅歌 (冧到震。。。)
- 煮飯仔（無論係你煮定我煮都覺得好幸福啵 (唔好食都變得好食啦）即使洗碗都覺得幸福呀（好變態！有被虐狂）XDDDDDDDDDDDDD
- 修理家裡壞掉的東西時 - 好 man 呀! :D
- 收到一張喺你去旅行時寄返嚟嘅 postcard (although, >90% of the time 你個人返咗你張 postcard都未見影）

其實好多時候都無話特別要做 D 乜。。。簡單到可能只係喺 coffee shop 一齊飲咖啡，雖然可能你有你睇你嘅書，我有我做功課。。。just being there, feel 幸福啦（不過大家唔好對號入錯座。。。當然係只有當時那個 "他" 做我先會覺得幸福／窩心。。。其他的你、你、你。。。未免想得太多了！ XDDDDD)

P.S. Feel sad for the divorce lady at the end of the story though, really 對人歡笑背人愁。。。

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浪漫，又是甚麼？
請用10個字形容一下浪漫。

甚麼？哪怕是10個字，3個字也嫌多。浪漫，不就是浪漫嘛！

沒錯，浪漫是一種感覺，一種feel。而你一搬FEEL這四個字母出來，已可說是天下無敵，人人都拿你沒輒。
那麼，怎樣會令你「覺得很浪漫」？要對方做些甚麼、配備甚麼道具，才會讓你忍不住心裡喊一聲：「好浪漫呀！」

以現代最cliché的標準，浪漫的道具不外乎鑽石、玫瑰、燭光晚餐、沙灘+浪花；浪漫的行為例如在地鐵大聲講我愛你、買下時代廣場大電視的兩分鐘時間叫你做老婆豬、當眾自彈自唱那首專誠為你而學的歌、又或者，學織冷衫，給你織件雖鴛鴦袖卻很窩心的溫暖牌。

我們被毒到這個地步，就是說如果朋友甜笑著跟你說她的另一半帶備以上其中一種道具做了以上其中一種行為，你即使心裡不甚了了，也要應酬式地回應一句：「嘩你就好啦男朋友咁浪漫！」

為了尋找浪漫的真締，我向幾個朋友查詢她們對上一次「覺得浪漫」是甚麼時候──

A：「我跟他逛city’super，你也知道他買日用品從來不看價錢，那天他竟然在揀鹽時格價！那一刻我忽然覺得前途很光明！很浪漫！」

B：「那天呀~我的M來得很凶，我痛得腰都伸不直了，家裡的巾巾剛好又用光，他居然自己提出替我去買！雖然很痛，卻痛有所值喔！」

C：「我那位，唉，完事之後他比我晚睡著我已經覺得很浪漫很皇恩浩蕩的啦！」（對上一次是幾時？）「我們第一次做的那晚。」

D：「其實每次我看著他修理家裡壞掉的東西時，都會有浪漫的感覺湧上腦。例如前天電視機沒畫面，他去拍了幾下機身畫面又出來了！」

E：「他每天都會準時來電提醒我吃藥，有時我也會嫌煩啦！有天他真的沒來電話，等呀等呀，心裡在罵他沒良心。三個鐘後他打來問我藥吃了沒，我氣得問他『死咗去邊』，原來他出了車禍斷了腿躺醫院呢！那一刻眼淚自自然然就滾出來了。」

F：「我在一家養了很多流浪貓的書店裡，遇到一位老伯伯坐著看書，一隻黃貓在他懷中睡得很香！天！這畫面真的太浪漫了！」（你會不會離題太遠？你多久沒拍拖了？）

綜合她們的意見，浪漫，首先是對方突然做一些平常不會做、而你心裡卻很想很想他做的事情；第二點更重要，就是對方的言行令你對將來有憧憬有盼望，覺得跟他一起活下去是件很有意思的事。

雖然每個女人都是吃感覺的奶大，但不是每個女人都想做射燈下的drama queen。浪漫的形式有很多種，而且很多時候是存在於細眉細眼的日常生活小節裡，要靠你自己去發掘。

想起一個早前因為被老公家暴而申請離婚的朋友說過，別人都覺得她前夫很浪漫很有情趣，生日和情人節都很給力，送大大束的花到她公司讓她「有得威」。而她說，去年的情人節他又送了一百支玫瑰到公司，當天晚上回到家裡一言不合又被他很給力的打到豬頭一樣。

第二天要告假的她，同事們還以為她跟老公昨晚浪漫大戰得太激烈呢！

On Ekin 鄭伊健...

朋友仔一路都係伊麵忠實 fans，我就一般囉，係記得喺 Purdue 時都有喺 YesAsia 買咗依隻 CD (當時好奢侈o架！） :D



so i don't think other than this one i've listen to his songs particularly (i don't really recall anyway) - well, i mean, not until last year I just realize (and surprised!) i know pretty much all of his songs when I went to his concert (and thanks for 朋友仔 ticket!)

So this year i initiate to go to his concert - and i think my FIRST time to buy the most $$ ticket - not even Leon!!! LOL! I think the part that engaged me a lot is that most of his songs are those "fairy tale" love stories, songs' name like 感激我遇見, 一生愛你一個, 誰可情深如我,你狠心來傷我嗎, 仍能情深愛上, 有你便有我, 一個為你甘去蹈火海的人, 直至消失天與地, 友情歲月, 同一秒,發現, Together.... (just to name a few)… Just the songs' names alone can write up a love story (more than a love letter!) Not to mention, melody of those old days songs are very "my cup of tea"... :P

咁我算唔算係伊麵粉絲？ XDDDD

On the same token, 如果有個男仔對住你唱／點唱以上事但一首歌俾你都 easily冧死啦！！(I mean, 邊個女仔都會 rite? Unless she REALLY hates Ekin)

LOL

Very much look forward to the concert this Sat… (Row 12!) hahaha…